Stand Gently

Good Morning, 

When we read the Bible, we should read much. When we make a decision based on the Bible, we should base it on more than one verse. God can communicate in a single passage or just a word, but it is wise to read much.  From comparing one verse to another, we also learn much. Likewise, we find much in the context or the verses around the verse. 

Notice how Paul wrote to his friends the Thessalonians. 

1 Thessalonians 2:2 “... shamefully entreated, as ye know, at Philippi, we were bold in our God to speak unto you the gospel of God with much contention.”

vs. 4 “... so we speak; not as pleasing men, but God…"

vs. 5 “For neither at any time used we flattering words…"

vs. 6 “...nor of men sought we glory …"

These verses might imply a strong, harsh stand, perhaps having to argue, debate, or deal with great conflict. These are good truths for the Christian to cling to, to urge us to stand firm in our conviction and not to bend. These verses could encourage us to be less than “nice," but then we read verse seven and realize there are both sides of a strong stand for your faith. 

1 Thessalonians 2:7 “But we were gentle among you, even as a nurse cherisheth her children:"

The Christian should stand firm; he should stand deliberately. The Christians should stand without wavering from truth and right. A Christian should be willing to face conflict, as well as be in the midst of contention. These things are not easy, and they clash with our traditional philosophy of being "nice."  

In verse seven, we read that Paul said he was gentle as a nurse who cherishes children. The Christian life is not easy. The Christian life is not casually lived or recklessly practiced.  Knowing humanity, we usually gravitate to the right or the left. Like driving down the street, we rarely drive in the center of the lane; we constantly need to adjust our position.

Two quick thoughts regarding this subject:  First we should be patient with those around us, especially Christian leaders. We cannot afford to have those in positions of leadership bowing and bending to every push and shove that comes from the world, the flesh, or the devil. On occasion, we will be offensive and lack gentleness.

The very kind and warm Christian leader might also be the one who is too soft and compromises on right; standing in the dead center is difficult.

 Secondly, it is wise not to be too hard on yourself. Each one of us will drift to the right and left. We will be too nice one day, yet avoid the risk compromise and be too harsh another day; we may seem unkind and without feeling. 

We are sinful men seeking to live the Christlike life about which Paul wrote. He said a war was inside him. John also wrote, “If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves…” (1 John 1:8).

Referring back to the illustration of driving down the road, let us all decide that we must keep our hands on the wheel and constantly adjust to the right or left, while we seek to stand firmly in the center, while standing gently, knowing that those two positions are not easy to balance.

Pastor

Feeling vs The Bible

Good Morning,

Ephesians 4:22 “That ye put off concerning the former conversation the old man, which is corrupt according to the deceitful lusts;”

Colossians 3:8 “But now ye also put off all these; anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy communication out of your mouth.”

The basis of morality is the missing ingredient of today’s society. Society has always had people who were more violent than others, or people who are prone to steal rather than work and pay their own way. Some people may even claim that they are alcoholics or drug addicts because it is in their physiological make up.  No matter where the blame is placed, we all know it is destructive and wrong; and we also know it needs to be controlled.

While growing through the events of childhood, teen phases, and college years, my nature was never one to have a quick or violent temper. Other people had a more explosive temper and struggled with anger.

The fact that someone struggles with an explosive temper does not make it right. It means they have to work harder at not letting that ruin their life. We all know people who are prone to selfishness. However, they got that way is irrelevant. The fact is, we all know it is wrong; they are will need to fight that tendency to selfishness, or it will ruin their marriage, their career, and an endless number of other relationships.

Because someone feels a certain way does not justify them behaving that way. Covetousness is common, but to allow covetousness to move us to theft or bitterness toward others is wrong. Greed is another tragic flaw in the character of many people. If someone has a deep-seeded greediness in their heart, it does not justify their corrupt behavior.  Right is still right, and wrong needs to be put aside and resisted.

We all know that some of us who are more organized than others, while some are completely comfortable with everything in disarray and their possessions being in chaos. The fact that you have a natural tendency of being a slob does not make it right nor preferential. It does mean that some things are going to be harder for you as you resist the tendency to allow everything around you to be in chaos.

As the above Scripture states, we need to “put off” and fight against some characteristics in our natural make up.   

Who cares about what we feel if it is against the clear teaching of the Bible. As I said earlier, the Bible is the basis for morality that our society is lacking.  It seems that the world around us has no basis for right or wrong, therefore our flawed, foolish, and often corrupt desires end up ruling and often ruining our lives.  

From the Ten Commandments to the Golden Rule, God named right and wrong.  God said we ought to shun the wrong, put on what is right, and control our fleshly desires.  

2 Timothy 2:16 “But shun profane and vain babblings: for they will increase unto more ungodliness.” 

1 Peter 2:11 “Dearly beloved, I beseech you as strangers and pilgrims, abstain from fleshly lusts, which war against the soul;”

When our feelings or our natural tendencies go against the Word of God, we need to control them – this concept is not difficult to understand!  Right is right and wrong is wrong – no matter how we feel. 

Pastor

Fit In

Good Morning,

Many years ago, a state superintendent of schools said to a Baptist church regarding their Christian school, “We are preparing our children for the next generation, where your Christian school kids will not fit in.”  The pastor replied, “We are preparing our children for the coming Kingdom of Jesus Christ where your children will not fit in.”  You can guess how that conversation ended.

Believers do not fit in when they walk with God and honor His Word.  One illustration of this is in the book of Ezra. While the Jews began to rebuild Jerusalem, the critics wrote letters, hired counselors, and slandered them.  

Ezra 4:12 “… the Jews which came up from thee to us are come unto Jerusalem, building the rebellious and the bad city…”

vs. 15 “…this city is a rebellious city, and hurtful unto kings and provinces…”

Daniel was seen refusing to eat the king’s food and when he prayed in spite of laws against prayer.  Again, we see a “misfit” group of people when Daniel’s friends would not bow and worship the image the king had built.  Do we think there were no other Jews around?  There were thousands of Jews, but only some determined to stand.  

Remember when Mordecai refused to bow to Haman?  For once, countless Jews around Haman became thoroughly angered because he wrote letters to kill all the Jews in the kingdom.  One Jew, Mordecai, would not bow to the vile leader. 

An endless number of Christians have not chosen to stand against the world – they made their choice to “fit in;”  but there have also been great heroes of the faith who said, “No!” to the world. 

Esther 3:8 “And Haman said unto king Ahasuerus, There is a certain people scattered abroad and dispersed among the people in all the provinces of thy kingdom; and their laws are diverse from all people; neither keep they the king's laws: therefore it is not for the king's profit to suffer them.” 

Notice the accusation of the evil Haman, “Their laws are diverse.” That is a true statement – the people of God have always been different.  The lie that the Jews did not keep the king’s laws was untrue; they were (as God’s people have always been) law-abiding until the laws of man cross the laws of God.  The faithful Christian will be the best of citizens, but the faithful Christian will also stand against the laws that violate the law of God.

Do not fret when you are different; Peter said we are “strangers and pilgrims.”  Throughout time, some believers have said, “I follow Christ and His Word, not this vile world.”  We do not need to try to fit in, neither did Jesus.  

Pasto

Fellows

Good Morning,

In the book of Philemon, one word that stands out in the Christian life is used four times – fellow. Used in a context of camaraderie, Paul tells of his faithful brethren.

vs. 1 …dearly beloved, and fellowlabourer, 

vs. 2 …Archippus our fellowsoldier, 

vs. 23 …my fellowprisoner in Christ Jesus 

vs. 24 …Marcus, Aristarchus, Demas, Lucas, my fellowlabourers 

The word fellowlabourer in verse 1 and 24 describes the importance of hard work in the ministry.  These people Paul wrote about were not just Sunday-morning Christians, they worked in the ministry.  Men work long and hard for wealth and success in their career, so why not work hard for the eternal rewards and the glory of the Saviour? 

Verse 2 speaks of a fellow soldier, making it clear that the ministry is a war.  Ephesians speaks of the armor of the Lord. Paul writes to Timothy about waring a good warfare and fighting the good fight. The warfare Paul alluded to many times in his writings reminds us that we will be assaulted and beaten physically or emotionally.  When the attack of the wicked one comes, we should remind ourselves that Peter warned about the adversary who walks seeking whom he might devour.  When evil enters our world, we need to understand that we are not the first or the last person to face the angry barbs of words or laws.  

Verse 23 speaks of being a prisoner.  We may use that term in our culture in a figurative or emotional sense, but I doubt that is what Paul was referring to. Paul spent too much time in jail not to be speaking literally. There are times when the faithful Christian will suffer under the godless rulers.  Endless writings over the centuries have told the stories of millions of believers who suffered torture, prison, and horrible death for the faith.   One pastor from China said that to pastor in their country will gain each man an average of eleven years of prison throughout his ministry. 

These special associates of Paul were recorded in a letter to Philemon in admonition to all the ages; Christ is worthy of our labor and being disciplined and devoted to Him.  These men, found in one of the shortest books in the Word of God, tell us that prison life due to honorable living is well worth the cost. 

We follow a crucified Saviour, not yet a crowned and glorious King.  The throne and royal reign will come.  For today, we serve, labor, and suffer for He Who is more than worthy.

Pastor

Courage

Good Morning,

Paul writes, “be strong in the Lord” and “quit ye like men, be strong.”  Isaiah wrote about renewing your strength, while David wrote of God being his strength and shield.  Hebrews 12 says not to “faint in your minds.”

Why all of this about strength and courage?  Because the devil wants to defeat us, often with mental fatigue.  Some fall due to booze, morals, drugs or crime, but most Christians step down from service because they are weary.  Paul writes, “be not weary in well doing for in due season we shall reap if we faint not.” 

The mental pressure is not new and has been the tool of the wicked one forever.   

Ezra 4:4 “Then the people of the land weakened the hands of the people of Judah, and troubled them in building,”

vs. 5 “And hired counsellors against them, to frustrate their purpose, all the days of Cyrus king of Persia, even until the reign of Darius king of Persia.”

vs. 6 “And in the reign of Ahasuerus, in the beginning of his reign, wrote they unto him an accusation against the inhabitants of Judah and Jerusalem.”

Notice the things that occurred: 

• Hands weakened 

• Frustrated them

• Troubled them from building

• Hired counselors to frustrate them

• Kept pushing until the next king was crowned (it went on and on)

• Began writing letters of accusation

Satan needs nothing new, for the same methods discourage the believer today.  Satan seeks to discourage and wear down the believer to stop them from doing the work of God.  The job of Christians is to keep doing the work, discouraged or not.  When David’s own men talked of stoning him, he “encouraged himself in the Lord.”

Courage, my Christian friend, is not needed in the amusement park but the battle field.  No crowns were ever won riding a merry-go-round.

Pastor

After This The Judgement

Good Morning,

We live in a godless, corrupt world because so few have any fear of God.  We have stopped teaching children that there is a God in Heaven before Whom they will stand.

Romans 2:15  “Which shew the work of the law written in their hearts, their conscience also bearing witness, and their thoughts the mean while accusing or else excusing one another;)”

vs. 16 “In the day when God shall judge the secrets of men by Jesus Christ according to my gospel.”

God will judge the “secrets” of men – the things that are done in the dark in places where lights are turned low – all of it will be judged! 

Luke 12:2 “For there is nothing covered, that shall not be revealed; neither hid, that shall not be known.”

vs. 3 “Therefore whatsoever ye have spoken in darkness shall be heard in the light; and that which ye have spoken in the ear in closets shall be proclaimed upon the housetops.”

I sure am glad that our sins are under the blood!  I am thankful our sins were all judged at Calvary!  But – there is still a judgment of believers; their works will be judged and revealed before all. 

Matthew 12:36 “But I say unto you, That every idle word that men shall speak, they shall give account thereof in the day of judgment.” 

Every idle word?  That is what the Bible says!  

Psalms 139:2 “Thou knowest my downsitting and mine uprising, thou understandest my thought afar off.”

vs. 3 “Thou compassest my path and my lying down, and art acquainted with all my ways.”

vs. 4 “For there is not a word in my tongue, but, lo, O LORD, thou knowest it altogether.”

Where we sit and stand, and that which we think on are all known.  God knows all our ways and every word from our tongue.  God is perfect in holiness, and that thought ought to bring fear into our hearts.  

Ezekiel 11:5 “Thus saith the LORD; Thus have ye said, O house of Israel: for I know the things that come into your mind, every one of them.”

(1Chronicles 28:9) 

These verses simply touch the surface of the volumes of Scripture that ought to make us fear the judgment.  We will face God!  We will stand before Christ at the Judgment Seat, and the lost will stand at the Great White Throne.  Every one of our children, grandchildren, friends, and neighbors will stand in judgment! 

If there is no judgment, why not live for money, pleasure, and self?  If there is no judgment, who cares what anyone else thinks. Who cares about honesty, decency, or honorable living UNLESS THERE IS A JUDGMENT!  Only then there is a reason to be good.

Hebrews 9:27 “And as it is appointed unto men once to die, but after this the judgment:” 

May we live as if we believe that day is coming.  May we teach these truths so others will live with an air of concern and fear.

Pastor

Division In Society

Good Morning,

We all have our personal picture of the Lord, whether that picture be of a kind, loving God or one of wrath and judgment.  The very best thing to do is read enough Bible that our thoughts are His thoughts. 

Zechariah writes of the trouble Israel was having socially: there was division, fussing among the people, and employment trouble. One may wonder what caused the division.  

Zechariah 8:10 “For before these days there was no hire for man, nor any hire for beast; neither was there any peace to him that went out or came in because of the affliction: for I set all men every one against his neighbour.”

The trouble in their society came from the Lord. Counselors and politicians are always trying to find the root of problems, but they usually fail to go to the most logical source – God.  When we anger the Lord, He is likely to bring about judgment.  In verse ten, we see that there were no jobs and men were not safe.  Civil unrest and economic trouble was allowed by or caused by God!  

The Lord continues speaking of a better day when He will restore a civil society:

vs. 12 “For the seed shall be prosperous; the vine shall give her fruit, and the ground shall give her increase, and the heavens shall give their dew; and I will cause the remnant of this people to possess all these things.”

Any casual observer can see our national woes are many, from immigration to the economy, yet few are pointing out the root cause – God!  

The Lord uses trouble to rebuke us, as well as to humble us.  Trials of weather, economy, and strife are often referenced in the Scripture as tools in the hands of God.

God brings hardship. Psalm 39:3 

God sends evil. Micah 1:12; Habakkuk 1:6 

God deceives man. Ezekiel 14:9 

In my notes, I have written about thirty similar passages. The truth of God’s working in our society through trouble is indisputable.  

The important point is that we seek Him and His mercy.  It is imperative that we seek the Lord, and when trouble comes, we continue to draw near to Him.  Some might wonder if the trouble is from the devil, from God, or from natural causes.  I cannot say absolutely where the root lies, but I can say absolutely that our behavior ought to be the same – SEEK THE LORD.

I know some who would say that God cannot do evil or mean things (using our vernacular).  I will not argue the point whether God uses evil or causes evil, but there is no doubt God is intimately involved in our lives. 

Isaiah writes on the matter:

Isaiah 45:7 “I form the light, and create darkness: I make peace, and create evil: I the LORD do all these things.” 

We know that our national troubles are rooted in the godless living of society. The closer we walk to the Lord, the more divine blessings we will enjoy.  The solution is the same as always: we must get our families into church, Sunday school, and service of the Lord.  We need to consider where our tithes and time are going – to a soul-winning church or a social group?  

The hope of restoring peace and blessings on our nation comes from getting more people saved and loving God. 

Pastor

Be Careful Little Eyes (Part 2)

Good Morning,

(If you did not read Be Careful Little Eyes - Part. 1, you may want to read it to help set the stage for these thoughts.)

Most of humanity allows public opinion to set their morals.  Those who live in a primitive culture think nothing of going around the village topless, nursing a baby in public, or wearing a loin cloth. They have seen this all their lives and count it as acceptable.  (A good reason to avoid beaches in our nation.)

Why would cartoons have characters with exaggerated anatomy, short skirts, skin-tight pants, or low-cut tops?  Do we think little children care about these things?  No! Pre-meditated conditioning is being carried out.  Society is training our children to accept indiscretion as proper, sexually-explicit clothing as reasonable, and inappropriate behavior as logical.  

If you read these emails often, you know that I regularly address issues like this. I want people to think and to think and to think until they grasp the truth. Advertising matters.  Many people will need to read this kind of thing over and over before it begins to sink in.  Others may read it once and stop reading because they have no intention of allowing these ideas to sink in.  

Our world of entertainment trains us to live Godless lives.  We have parked Americans in front of televisions nightly for decades, and the producers have changed society.  When a nation of people who, for the most part, have attended church on Sundays, turns into a society of Sunday softball and soccer players, the mindset of the nation has been changed.  

When God directed fathers to talk about the Bible all of the time, He had a plan. The devil took that same plan and went to work on the opposite side of that plan to prevent fathers from reading the Bible daily with their families. 

Deuteronomy 6:6 “And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart:”

vs. 7 “And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.”

When we raise a generation that has seen dad and mom read the Bible daily and talk about it all of the time, we will “train up a child in the way he should go.”  The changes that move a society to children never seeing dad with a Bible in his hands and never hearing their parents talk about the Word of God, are changes for the worse.  

Do our children see dad cheering more during preaching or cheering more at a basketball game? Do the children see dad writing out tithe checks, preparing a Sunday school lessons, and dressing up for church; or is dad working on off-road toys and watching ball games while drinking beer with the neighbors?  What our children see is what society becomes.  

Most of the world accepts corrupt political leaders; they have seen it all of their lives and expect nothing different.  In fact, some may even be happy to see their child excel in that field to glean a portion of the fame and wealth; but when a family prays for their nation, begs God for forgiveness and mercy, and seeks to live a holy life knowing that God might bring mercy and revival to their land, also moves society.  

Lamentations 3:51 “Mine eye affecteth mine heart …”

Think and pay attention to what are our children are seeing? When they are with relatives, at school, at home, or at church, consider what ideals are being pressed into the heart and soul of our next generation?  

Pastor

Be Careful Little Eyes (Part 1)

Good Morning,

I would like to point out two stories: one, David and Bathsheba (2 Samuel 11:3), and the other, Achan at Jericho (Joshua 7:21).  Both of these men saw something, and then took something.  I could also add Samson, who saw the gal and told his parents to get her for him (Judges 14:2-3); he also saw and took.

With those Bible stories in mind, I wonder why believers fuss about sermons on television or social media, or about taking phones and tablets out of the hands of their children. Our young people see so much, and without a doubt, that which we see affects our desires and actions.  Commercials and billboards also testify to this truth – that which we see moves us to action.

When folks see something, it affects them.  When Jesus spoke of a man looking with lust after a woman, He said the man has committed adultery WITH HER.  She was a party to the adulterous act. So yes, dress matters.  Yes, shutting off the television with football cheerleaders matters.  Yes, going to the beach and spending time with folks dressed in colored underwear matters – that which we see affects us! 

Let us take this one step further – that which we hear influences us.  

Matthew 4:24 “And he said unto them, Take heed what ye hear: with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you: and unto you that hear shall more be given.”

In hearing, it is a philosophy we take rather than gold or another man’s wife.  I took a few young people out of town to a preaching meeting at a good church, and there was nothing wrong with the preaching, except for what he DID NOT SAY.  He never called out one sin.  He smiled the entire time he spoke.  He never did what Paul commanded Timothy to do, “reprove, rebuke and exhort.”

We did not attend the next conference. I will not bring my young people to hear soft, easily digested, pablum that does not bring conviction, step on any toes, or lift us to a holy and separated life. That which we hear and see will move us to act, for good or for bad.

Regarding their behavior, the apostle said, “For we cannot but speak the things which we have seen and heard.” (Acts 4:20) 

To allow our children to play video games with headphones, hear who knows what, and see uncensored pictures and actions is imprudent at best, destructive at worst. 

Remember the children’s song, “Oh, be careful little eyes what you see…” – no truer words were ever written.

Pastor

What Do We Do With The Things

Good Morning,

Most of us are familiar with Romans 8:28 where we are told “all things work together for good (do not miss the caveat) to them that love God…”

God says that He will use all of those things you did not like, the things others did to you, the things that came due to ill health, or the things that frustrated you at work to make you better and to bring Him glory. 

Here is a similar statement we often miss:

Philippians 1:12 “But I would ye should understand, brethren, that the things which happened unto me have fallen out rather unto the furtherance of the gospel;”

Paul was talking about all that he had to face before entering prison: the injustice, the unkind acts, the lawless rulers, and the evil religious leaders. He said that those things were tools in the hand of God to help more people hear about how good He is.  The things that happened to Paul allowed him to tell others about Christ and salvation.  

In our society, the things that happen to us are used to gain pity and attention.  Situations that occur in our world today are used to get us notoriety.  The difficult or unjust obstacles we face are being used to blame God and God’s people and to throw accusations at the God Who sent His Son to die for our sins.

The obstacles that enter our lives are often used to take people away from the Gospel and the Saviour. Paul said that the things he faced brought opportunity to speak well of Jesus and the Gospel message.  

Paul believed that God is good when men are bad.  

Paul believed that the Gospel of salvation was infinitely more important than his personal comfort. 

Paul believed that he belonged to God, and that God could do with him as the Lord saw fit.

Paul believed the simple statement Esther made: “If I perish, I perish.”  

Paul stood on the deck of the ship about to sink and cried out, “Wherefore sirs, I believe God…”

The question is, do you believe in God? Do you believe He is good, faithful, trustworthy, and able to take wrong and use it for right?  

Paul continues:

Philippians 1:13 “So that my bonds in Christ are manifest in all the palace, and in all other places;”

Paul had opportunities to witness and to tell of the wonderful Saviour he served; that opportunity never would have come if he had not been in prison.  The whole palace population heard the Gospel because Paul was unjustly incarcerated. 

Paul believed in a powerful, faithful, sovereign God.  Do we? 

Pastor

AFFECTION

Good morning,

During March, we always seek to raise money for special projects at church. Everybody basically has their “special projects.”  For some people it’s their motor home; for other people, their special project is their four-wheelers and off-road vehicles. I know one couple that loves to go on cruises. They will carefully plan their time and their finances so they can enjoy multiple cruises every year. Now, in and of themselves, none of these activities or hobbies are wrong, but we must understand that these are a reflection of what people consider special or important.

In retrospect, David told the people of Israel why he did what he did in regards to the temple and money.

1 Chronicles 29:3 “Moreover, because I have set my affection to the house of my God, I have of mine own proper good, of gold and silver, which I have given to the house of my God, over and above all that I have prepared for the holy house,"

vs. 4 Even three thousand talents of gold, of the gold of Ophir, and seven thousand talents of refined silver, to overlay the walls of the houses withal:”

Notice David’s statement, “…because I have set my affection to the house of my God…” David did what he did because he was very affectionate toward the house of God. God’s house, God’s work, and God’s people were precious to David, and because these things were precious, he had a strong affection for these things; he managed to find a way to give financially.

vs. 2 “Now I have prepared with all my might for the house of my God.” 

The more we love something, the more time and energy we will put into that thing. It could be our spouse, our children, or the work of God. In verse two, David prepared “with all my might.” He worked at it! It was on his mind all of the time. Because of his love, he worked at finding ways to gather resources to provide for the work of God.

I know many people who spent their lives storing up for retirement, and then, after retirement, found themselves unable to do the things they had hoped to do because their health broke, or their spouse went to Heaven, or they both went to Heaven. I surely do not think it a bad idea to leave something to our “children’s children” as the Bible says (Proverbs 13:22). I know every bit of energy I put into God’s work is eternal, and it will make an impact on my family and other families forever.

One last thought: you will notice in verse three, that David “set” his affections. It was intentional. It was not an accidental fall-in-love-with-some-girl-he-met-in-school feeling. He set his affection! It was intentional. He determined that the house of God was worthy of his love, his affection, and his sacrificial giving.

This is what Paul referred to in the book of Colossians.

Colossians 3:2 “Set your affection on things above, not on things on the earth.”

Everyone loves something enough to spend their time accumulating money for that investment. That precious investment could be beer and cigarettes, a trip to Las Vegas, horses or dogs, house and yard, or any number of other things. It seems prudent to set our affection on the things of God.

Pastor

Some Do Most

Good Morning,

We have all heard the statistic that 10% of the people do 90% of the work in a church, and often, the same is true in a community. I do not know if the numbers are correct, but the principle is true. Most people do not accomplish the majority of the work.

In a church, if we start to plan with the idea that "If everyone did this, then we could all accomplish that” it is hopeful, but vain thinking. Do not get your hopes up; nor should you be discouraged about the truth. The fact remains that life has injustices, hurt, and difficulties. Settle the thought into your mind to be one of those people who gets jobs done; let the rest stand idly by and achieve little or nothing. See that you succeed yourself or at least give it your all.

Remember the battle in which Sisera fought and died: a few comments were recorded to remind us of the simple lesson that "some do most."

Judges 5:17 “Gilead abode beyond Jordan: and why did Dan remain in ships? Asher continued on the sea shore, and abode in his breaches.”

These guys stayed at a safe distance and waited.

vs. 18 “Zebulun and Naphtali were a people that jeoparded their lives unto the death in the high places of the field.”

Zebulun and Naphtali gave their all —and God DID notice.

vs. 20 “They fought from heaven; the stars in their courses fought against Sisera.”

vs. 23 “Curse ye Meroz, said the angel of the LORD, curse ye bitterly the inhabitants thereof; because they came not to the help of the LORD, to the help of the LORD against the mighty.”

God got involved in the fight by using the stars. God helped by commanding the stars in their courses to fight. God pronounced a curse on those who did not run to the fight. We understand that God could have won any battle on His own, but when God wants us to help, why do we have a problem? Remember the tribes about to enter Canaan and the desire some had to stay behind? The reply of Moses was clear:

Numbers 32:6 ”And Moses said unto the children of Gad and to the children of Reuben, Shall your brethren go to war, and shall ye sit here?”

After agreeing to go and fight, Moses responded:

vs. 23 “But if ye will not do so, behold, ye have sinned against the LORD: and be sure your sin will find you out.”

The fact that most people will not give their all or risk a dangerous, self-sacrificing battle is obvious. Most people will not go soul winning. Most people will not run a bus route. Most people will not teach a Sunday school class. Most people will not go to the mission field to start churches. Most people will not start a church; they would rather have a paid position in a church that another pastor ran the risk to establish.

The fact that most people will not participate in the work does not give us reason not to try. We just need to keep our eyes on the Lord and keep from allowing ourselves to become discouraged if we have no help.

In the story mentioned earlier, God helped, and Jael helped with her tent spike. Although it was a hard battle, the victory was won, and God received the glory. That is a successful day!

If it happens to be you doing the work, do it for God and His honor. If you have some help, rejoice; but do not let your happiness or your service of others rest on the participation of those around you — that is a formula for defeat. Go serve God; walk with God; enjoy the life God has given you, and look forward to the Judgment Seat because God always pays well!

Pastor Goddard

Men Pleasers

Good Morning,

Galatians 1:10 “For do I now persuade men, or God? or do I seek to please men? for if I yet pleased men, I should not be the servant of Christ.” 

We all know what peer pressure is, and we all would agree that we ought not allow the pressure of peers to control us.  Any parent worth their salt has told their children something similar to this,  “Do not do that just because your friends are doing it.” 

Yet look at Christian adults –the men cut their hair like the other guys do, and they adjust their dress according to their (adult) peers. Christian adults who tell their children, “Do not follow everyone else,” are focused upon what others are doing in their own social lives.  Preachers are doing their best to do what other churches are doing so they fit in with the religious climate of their day.  

Daniel is such a great example!  He went against the grain of everyone that touched his faith.  He would not eat what others ate.  Daniel would not stop praying when politicians told him to stop.  Daniel had no problem going against the socially-accepted norms in any area.  Daniel took his stand with God and let the chips fall wherever they would.  Daniel risked his career because he stood, as did his friends. 

American Christians are like the Pharisees who whitewashed the sepulchers of the prophets.

Matthew 23:29  “Woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! because ye build the tombs of the prophets, and garnish the sepulchres of the righteous,”

vs. 30 “And say, If we had been in the days of our fathers, we would not have been partakers with them in the blood of the prophets.”

vs. 31 “Wherefore ye be witnesses unto yourselves, that ye are the children of them which killed the prophets.”

Consider where your children attend school.  You will find that most people place their children in schools that their friends approve.  Ladies, check out your hemline; you will find that it matches your friends, and changes with the styles of the day (peer pressure).  When I was in college, everyone had junker cars – so it was not a problem.  But now, I spend time with people who almost exclusively drive nice cars. (There you go, guessing what I drive.) If the Bible said NOT to drive a nice car, I would walk, ride a bike, or drive a rattle trap car.  Someone has to ask God what He thinks. 

What makes churches like ours unpopular is that we make people unpopular.  The closer you get to the Lord, the less you will fit in with the world.  No one at work is likely to compliment your mid-calf length skirt or the fact that you do not go to casinos. 

I have noticed that most people attend a church that has good programs or good music, features that are socially acceptable and welcomed via peer pressure.  I cannot remember the last time I heard someone say they attended a church because of doctrine or preaching. LOOK IN THE MIRROR!  THINK!  Why are you doing what you are doing?  Are adults manipulated by peers? 

The entire reason for church is to get us close to God so that we might have a part in fulfilling the Great Commission.  “Go. Win. Baptize. Teach.”  You are not on earth to please your friends, co-workers, or family members. 

Revelation 4:11 “Thou art worthy, O Lord, to receive glory and honour and power: for thou hast created all things, and for thy pleasure they are and were created.” 

For THY pleasure we are created!  Who cares about peers? 

Pastor 

Following The Crowd

Good Morning,

Mankind has a crowd mentality, meaning humanity has a tendency to follow the crowd, whether it be it to lynch someone or buy a certain new phone.  Some trends are not logical, but are ordered by the crowd.  

Some folks seek to live independently, yet they may mature into strange adults who become total misfits in society -– that situation has its own difficulties.  We live, shop, and attend schools and churches with others; and as such, to some extent, we need to "fit in"– but both extremes can ruin us.  

The book of Judges is the story of people who forgot godly leaders and did what they personally thought was best; hence, the theme of the book, "Every man did that which was right in his own eyes."  What a book of wrong doing!  One such story illustrates the "crowd mentality."

A wrong had taken place. The situation needed to be dealt with in a wise and orderly manner.  Because we cannot stop all of the wrong in the world, we need to focus on our response to the wrong; the rest is under the control of the society.  

One group of Israelites reacted, and another group responded; the result was two entire cities of people all dead, in addition to at least 65,000 others who were killed. The ripples of wrong continued, but for the moment, this illustrates the development of rage and hate.  When one stirs anger and hate, it becomes a plague that spreads and increases.  Others are infected, violence develops, and tragic results follow (this is how tyrants, as Hitler and Stalin, stirred revolutions).

Judges 20:21 “And the children of Benjamin came forth out of Gibeah, and destroyed down to the ground of the Israelites that day twenty and two thousand men.”

Judges 21:25 “And Benjamin went forth against them out of Gibeah the second day, and destroyed down to the ground of the children of Israel again eighteen thousand men; all these drew the sword.”

With some planning a whole city was destroyed:

Judges 21:37 “...and smote all the city with the edge of the sword.”

A whole city was destroyed, and in verses 44-45, and another 23,000 people were killed.  The anger and bitterness that grew in this situation developed into the likes of an animal in a killing frenzy. Then they realized that a whole tribe in Israel was about to be destroyed, and that could not be done. The only people left were soldiers – their families and children had been all killed. The result?  Emotions ran high, foolish decisions were made, and someone with a big mouth (or who was good at speaking) threw out an idea. The soldiers decided to attack another city. The people who had not been involved in the fighting previously, were suddenly attacked – and all were killed except the potential wives.

Judges 21:11 “And this is the thing that ye shall do, Ye shall utterly destroy every male, and every woman that hath lain by man.”

The rage that the emotional "crowd mentality" inflames initiates endless harm, often more than the original wrong that was done.  That is the way of man who has no "north star" or foundation upon which to temper his behavior and prevent his emotions from controlling his life.  In this book, every man did that which was right in his OWN EYES – that was the problem. We need to do what is right in the eyes of God; our own eyes and hearts are influenced far too much by passion and the crowd. 

Genesis 8:21 ”..for the imagination of man's heart is evil from his youth;”

Since the imaginations of man's heart are unreliable, we need godly leaders as Judges points out:

Judges 17:6 “In those days there was no king in Israel, but every man did that which was right in his own eyes.” (Also see Judges 18:1; 19:1; 21:25) 

Many verses dealing with this topic exist, and all are worthy of our attention that we might be guided by truth and wisdom, not by our own hearts.

Pastor

Good Repaid With Evil

Good Morning,

Dr. Bob Jones Senior had many famous quotes, so many that they put them into a little booklet. One of those quotes was, “I don’t know why they’re mad at me. I never did anything for them.” At times, the people for whom you did the most, somehow become angry with you. John 3:16 continues to be an amazing statement. Why would God so love this world?

Whether it be friends, family, co-workers, or someone with whom you just happen to cross paths, may we not do right and live the generous Christian life because of what we can get out of it but rather because it is right to do.

I know that most of us will be kind to someone for the simple fact that they have a need that we can meet, but somewhere deep down, we also assume that kindness would be returned. When that expected kindness comes back to us in some ugly form, it does throw us off.  A man said to me today, “I gave some money to a person who asked for it, they took it, and didn’t even say, ‘Thank you.’”  We usually expect a kind response.  

When Paul was talking about the ministry, he listed several elements that would be a part of the world in which the Christian lived.

2 Corinthians 6:4 “…in much patience, in afflictions, in necessities, in distresses,"

vs. 5 “In stripes, in imprisonments, in tumults, in labours, in watchings, in fastings;”

We live in such a historically unique situation. America is filled with generosity and kindness, even among the secular world and amongst strangers. I know there are exceptions, and I know there are times when people are heartless, but it is almost normal to face kindness, smiles, generosity, and helpfulness – these characteristics are common in America. Yes, there are exceptions, but still live in a culture that is heavily influenced by “love your neighbor as yourself.”

Most of the world does not enjoy the cultural amenities that we take for granted. As a child of God, we walk in a spiritual world, and often that spiritual world is in spiritual battle. Satan would love to discourage us from doing right, being helpful, or being unusually kind. Moments will occur when people will act in such a way that we cannot fathom it. 

Some time ago, I mentioned reading a writing by Charles Spurgeon; he wrote in regards to difficulties. He wrote something like this: “I would rather be robbed than rob; I would rather be hated than hate; I would rather be lied about than to lie.”  That statement condenses the Christian life into a nutshell. May we do right in a world that is often very wrong.

In the passage above, Paul spoke about difficult situations that he would be “in.” Our goal is to keep doing right, to expect nothing in return, and to seek most of all to please God.

Pastor

Walking In the Light

Good Morning,


Christ asked us to walk in the light.


1 John 1:5 “This then is the message which we have heard of him, and declare unto you, that God is light, and in him is no darkness at all.”

vs. 7 “But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship one with another, and the blood of Jesus Christ his Son cleanseth us from all sin.”


Believers are to walk in the light, and that walk is a result of close fellowship with Christ.  This philosophy is opposite from that of the world.  Our goals, dreams, motivations, and responses to the actions of others ought to be different from that of the world’s.  From the way I treat my neighbor or wife to the way I face conflict, I should be different.  I am not saying I always achieve these goals, but they are my goals.  


John 11:9 “Jesus answered, Are there not twelve hours in the day? If any man walk in the day, he stumbleth not, because he seeth the light of this world.”

vs. 10 “But if a man walk in the night, he stumbleth, because there is no light in him.”


Some believers stumble through life just as unsaved people because they also walk in the darkness.  No child of God should respond to trouble as an unsaved person.  A believer should face disappointment differently than a lost soul.   Grief will enter the lives of all of us, but when we walk in the light, we ought to respond differently than our lost counterparts.  


When a Christian spends little time in prayer and only brief moments reading the Bible, he is almost forced to live life as a lost person; for he is not spiritually equipped to walk in the Spirit and in the light.  


When we go into each day, we need to do so prayerfully, seeking the Lord to lead us “in the light” and striving not to walk like an unsaved person.  Believers are becoming so worldly that they seek to solve their problems the same way an unsaved person would.  Walking in the dark alludes to a worldly walk, a walk with the same motives as the world would have.  Walking in the light means to walk as Christ would have us walk.

The obvious lessons are to love our enemies, to forgive, to give to them that ask, not to forsake the assembly, and to live for others; but what about “perfect peace” and rest for your souls?  Are not those spiritual possessions?  Yes, but they are only to those who walk in the Spirit and the light.    


If we allow ourselves to deal with trouble in the same manner as the world, we will resort to divorce or angry words to a spouse.  Those actions ought not to be in the life of the child of God.  The world deals with life that way.  If we walk in the dark, we will not even see how poorly we are responding to life because our eyes cannot see clearly.     


The proper order is not to “act better.”  (That would be responding in the flesh.)  The first priority is to walk with God and to spend much time in prayer and the Bible.  We need to seek the presence of God and the filling of the Holy Spirit.  The proper attitudes and responses will come naturally.   Our time with God compared to our time in front of the television, social media, or other worldly enterprises will be manifested in the way we respond to difficulty.

The songwriter wrote, “Take time to be holy, speak oft’ with the Lord.” To be sure, it takes time to be truly holy, and we need to speak often with God.   Heavenly companions will bring about heavenly attitudes and results in our lives.


Pastor

Roles At Home

Good Morning,

Psalm 2:3 “Let us break their bands asunder, and cast away their cords from us.”

vs. 4 “He that sitteth in the heavens shall laugh: the Lord shall have them in derision.”

The Psalmist wrote of big shots who thought they could ignore the directions of God, “break the bands,” or violate the rules and directives God had set up.  This attitude is not new or honorable; it is foolish and arrogant. God set up guidelines for governments, churches, and homes.   Regarding the home, we see that the Lord set some clear directives;  notice the distinct duties of the man and the woman. 

The man is said to RULE the house, but the woman is said to GUIDE the house.  

1 Timothy 3:5 “(For if a man know not how to RULE HIS OWN HOUSE, how shall he take care of the church of God?)”

1 Timothy 5:14 “I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, GUIDE THE HOUSE, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully."

These two verses are different, yet both are supremely important.  The vocabulary was chosen by God, and He really does know best. 

We have a free will; God will allow us to play the fool if we desire.  If we want to allow God to guide us, clear instructions are written in the Scripture. 

The husband is to love his wife as Christ loved the church.  Nowhere in Scripture is the woman asked to do such a thing.  That is what a man is designed to be and do.  

What other directives do men have? 

2 Thessalonians 3:10 “For even when we were with you, this we commanded you, that if any would not work, neither should he eat.”

If there is any doubt who this is talking about, you can read verses 14-15 to see Paul use the words “man” and “brother.”

The man needs to work and provide for the family.  

1 Timothy 5:8 “But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.”

There is no place in Scripture that speaks of a man guiding the home.  That is “woman’s work;” and that is said with no insult; it is a matter of Divine intent.  I am the pastor, and there is no lady that can pastor this church as well as me, it is my job – God designed and planned it.  

The virtuous woman in Proverbs 31 is said to look well to the ways of her house.  She will guide and guard it:  

Proverbs 31:27 “She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.” 

Man is told to provide for his family.  No woman is ever required to do that.  She may work (and she will almost always work in some arena), but the responsibility of provision is the man’s.  

Regarding other responsibilities, the man is uniquely assigned the duty as father to train children. Our prisons are full of men who were raised without a father.  Mass shooters are almost always men without fathers in their lives.  No, a woman cannot raise a child as well as a man and a woman together; and yes, Satan works hard to split up homes.

Men have a duty to win the hearts of their children.  

Malachi 4:6 “And he shall turn the heart of the fathers to the children, and the heart of the children to their fathers, lest I come and smite the earth with a curse.” This is repeated of John the Baptist in Luke 1:16,17. 

There is no Bible verse that puts even a small emphasis on the mother’s relationship to her children in order to prevent the Lord from smiting the world with a curse. God set the imperatives, God allows us to know what matters to Him. There are some things a man can do in raising a child that no mother can do.  

A man is a picture of God the Father in the home, he gives children the example of the One Who provides, protects, and guides their lives.  One way a dad does this is to get up each day and work to provide for the needs of his wife and children.  This is not a matter of preference but rather it is the God’s plan.  

Can a lady have a job?  Of course.  Proverbs 31 tells of the virtuous woman, and much of the passage has to do with working outside her home, but her primary job is the home.  If I was hired to clean a business, but I had the ability to drive a forklift, driving the forklift would not be my job - cleaning is my job.  It is not about ability, but design and plan by the boss.

In the home, duties and roles are spiritual; duties show God, His love, and His provision to the world.  The wife teaches the powerful role of the Holy Spirit in the background guiding, motivating, inspiring, and honoring the Father.  Also, through the wife, God shows us the submission of believers to the will of the Heavenly Father.  Men cannot improve on the organization and order of the Sovereign Lord.  All we can do is improvise and operate at an impeded level of production.  No man can do a woman’s job, and no woman can do a man’s job and still obtain the success God desires to see in a home.   When that plan is broken by death or other troubles, then God gives grace to continue with His help.   

We can always trust the plan of God, even though it involves frail humanity.  God knew all about us before it began. If we will trust Him and His Word, He can help and guide us through life. 

Pastor

Pleasing Him

Good Morning,

John 8:29 “And he that sent me is with me: the Father hath not left me alone; for I do always those things that please him.” 

Consider the number of times Jesus and other great Bible characters were called names or considered crazy, and the number of times these great people suffered hardships and unkind deeds simply for doing right.  

Jesus warned those who wished to follow Him that the comforts of home may not be a part of their future. 

Matthew 8:20 “And Jesus saith unto him, The foxes have holes, and the birds of the air have nests; but the Son of man hath not where to lay his head.”

One of the amazing attributes of these great Bible characters is that they kept doing the Lord’s will as they faced trouble.  Jesus was called crazy or “beside Himself,” yet, He continued to do the things God asked of Him. 

Mark 3:21 “And when his friends heard of it, they went out to lay hold on him: for they said, He is beside himself.” 

John 7:5 “For neither did his brethren believe in him.”

Some people accused Jesus of having a devil inside Him. 

John 10:20 “And many of them said, He hath a devil, and is mad; why hear ye him?” 

Paul was also slandered and accused of being crazy. While he was in court, Paul witnessed to Festus and King Agrippa – and they said he was crazy. 

Acts 26:24 “And as he thus spake for himself, Festus said with a loud voice, Paul, thou art beside thyself; much learning doth make thee mad. 

The reason these men did what they did was to please the Lord and to edify the believers.  Being well thought of was not the important goal.

2 Corinthians 5:13 “For whether we be beside ourselves, it is to God: or whether we be sober, it is for your cause.” 

It is important to be reminded that we are not on this earth to prosper and to be loved but to honor God and to do His will.  Perhaps His will has prosperity, but it is also possible that the will of God will include difficulties.  The important thing is that we learn to do the will of God no matter our circumstance.  

 Perhaps, I will be lonely or forsaken by friends and family because of my faith and stand for right; but as the famous song says, “Whatever my lot, Thou hast taught me to say, it is well with my soul.”

The important goal is that we will do His will and always seek to please the Father.

John 8:29 “And he that sent me is with me: the Father hath not left me alone; for I do always those things that please him.” 

Pastor

Great Faith

Good Morning,

Jude 3 “… that ye should earnestly contend for the faith which was once delivered unto the saints.” 

We are commanded to contend for the faith. Our faith is amazing. THE FAITH is the sum of our beliefs, our biblical values, and our commands – this faith of ours is unbelievable in every way.  It was designed by the Creator and passed down to us through a perfect Book. THE FAITH was once delivered to the saints and is precious beyond words.  

Our faith explains a GREAT NEED:

The world is lost – not just a few, but everyone in the world. The churches, GOSPEL-PREACHING CHURCHES, are limited most often by a lack of funds and manpower. Churches have great needs such as our need for a larger building and more buses. The churches around the world all have needs; if those needs are not met, the great work of faith is hindered. 

Our faith assures us of a GREAT AND EFFECTUAL OPEN DOOR: 

God offers us so many opportunities – they are limitless: teaching children, witnessing to a neighbor, bringing the Gospel to a jail or rest home, working on bus route, and teaching or working in the Sunday school. Additionally, we look across the world to people in need of a Bible, the Gospel, and someone to explain that Gospel. 

Our faith requires GREAT CONTENDING:

When Jude wrote to earnestly contend for the faith, it was because staying true to our faith requires contending (of course, that means there is an opponent). This faith of ours is the hope of the entire world, so of course the devil works to hinder or cripple it.  Never be surprised by the enemy showing up in various forms hindering the great work of the Gospel. 

Our faith promises the availability of GREAT POWER to the believer:

The power of the Holy Spirit is promised to the child of God. (Acts 1:8)

Our faith promises the availability of GREAT PRESENCE to the believer:

Matthew 28:19-20 tells us, “…lo I am with you alway…”

He promises that Jesus will be with us everywhere we carry the Gospel. 

Our faith offers us a GREAT WAY TO PLEASE the holy God:

“…without faith it is impossible to please him…” Hebrews 11:6

When the Saviour returns, He will be looking for Our GREAT FAITH:

“… when the son of man cometh, shall he find faith in the earth?”  Luke 18:8

Pastor 

Keeping Your Father’s Name?

Good Morning,

It seems I have occasionally ruffled some feathers, and today is going to be the same.  Put this down or hold on to your socially-acceptable feelings; get to a safe space and turn on some praise and worship music. 

Genesis 3:20 “And Adam called his wife's name Eve; because she was the mother of all living.”

Genesis 5:2 “Male and female created he them; and blessed them, and called their name Adam, in the day when they were created.”

The thought today is subtle. This truth is part of the endless steps toward the deterioration of a Christian society. It matters like baking power or baking soda matters in a recipe. A recipe never calls for much of those ingredients, so what if you use one instead of the other?  It may seem like a little thing.  Well, it matters a great deal! Little things often matter in big ways.

This truth is like men or boys wearing pink. (I digress and will address that another time.)  

When God made man, He made them male and female and called THEIR NAME ADAM.  The wife and husband were one. That term, "one flesh" is used repeatedly in the Bible: Genesis 2:24; Matthew 19:5; Ephesians 5:31, and more beside those.

Some of the rich and famous folks keep their father’s name or prior name because of a desire to guard and establish their own identity, independent and "free." I believe most gals, who keep their dad’s name in their new married name, do it out of loyalty to their father, whom they love; but the fact is, they do it out of ignorance of the Scriptures and biblical truths about the body of Christ. 

The idea of "one flesh" is spiritual, reflecting or picturing the relationship between Christ and the church. Thus, the terrible sin of adultery violates fantastic spiritual truths. 

Genesis 2:23 “And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.”

Ephesians 5:30 “For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.”

This joining of two to make one is mysterious, spiritual, and planned by God.

When a girl is born, traditionally, and I believe scripturally, she carries her father’s name. When that lady marries, the father walks her down the aisle, and the preacher asks who gives away the bride.  Dad usually says something like, "Her mother and I do."  She no longer belongs to her father; her former identity is being dissolved.  After the vows, the preacher usually says, "I introduce to you Mr. and Mrs. (husband's name). She then takes her husband's name for life – they become "one flesh."

Notice the context of the prior verses:

Ephesians 5:31 “For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.”

vs. 32 “This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.”

The reason a man is to leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife as one is established in verse 32; it is a mystery concerning Christ and the church (LEAVING father and mother, another subject I will address one day).

Romans 7:2 “For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.”

For the wife to keep her maiden name, which, by the way, is not her own but her fathers, limits the idea of "one flesh." She is partly joined to her husband, yet still clinging to her father, or what some might think today, her own identity. 

I do not want my wife to cling to her former identity. When we were married, we became one; she and I have been ONE for decades – not two independent parts.  This is the issue: a division or a separation is a failure to unite. I have known widows who kept their former married name when they remarried, using both her deceased husband’s name and her new husband's name – WHAT CONFUSION!! Who are you?  Who are you ONE with? Are you one flesh or just living together now and then?   Are you emotionally, spiritually, and perhaps, legally tied to a dead man?

Romans 7:2 “... if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.”

There is a "LAW OF HER HUSBAND,” and that law binds the two together; as the vows say, "'till death do us part." At death, the law is broken, and the woman is free from that law.

If my wife had wanted to keep her father's name, I would not have married her. I know it is becoming a cultural trend, but as I wrote earlier, consider who you are identifying yourself with. Keeping the father’s name is the behavior of politicians and Hollywood folk. Do you follow their lead?

If my wife died, and I were to consider marrying again, I want that lady to be DONE with her former husband!   She would be ONE WITH ME. 

"God called THEIR name Adam," the woman had the same name as the man.  Adam gave her the name Eve later.  

We use a phrase like, “making a name for himself or herself,” and that is what society is trying to do – make us independent and separate. God wants the home and the married couple to be ONE! 

Pastor