Effeminate Men
Good morning,
Men in America have not suddenly become feminine and been drawn sexually to their own gender. The feminization of men is a Satanic work from the early days of humanity, certainly as far back as Sodom. Paul writes in the books of 1 Corinthians and Romans about being effeminate and acting against nature.
1 Corinthians 6:9 “Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor abusers of themselves with mankind,”
vs. 10 “…shall inherit the kingdom of God.”
Romans 1:26 “For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature:”
vs. 27 “And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet.”
Just as the misuse of drugs and alcohol, murder, and other various forms of shameful violence are present today, effeminate men will always be in society. Mankind is sinful. Why it seems to have increased in recent decades, I cannot tell you for sure; but I have observed trends which are probably a part of the cause.
Here are a few of my observations:
• Dominant women in the home
• Men absent from their family responsibilities, forcing mom to be in charge
• Divorce and children being raised without a dad
Ready for a rough one?
Women superheroes — I will not watch a show in which the woman is the superhero. I am so narrow-minded, that someone gave me a Dr. Pepper with wonder woman on it and I almost threw it out. (I decided to drink the Dr. Pepper first, then throw out the can.)
We are erasing gender lines in life! Women are coaching boys rather than caring for the softer and more feminine needs of the home (leaving these needs unmet in the home). Women have moved into the military and police force.
1 Timothy 2:12 “But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence.”
Ready for another sacred cow? Women in politics. There is no question that women standing up to campaign, criticize other political leaders, argue, and fight the political battles of a nation puts them in a position of dynamic leadership — which places men in a position of submission. The verse above forbids that! It may not be sinful, but it is hurtful.
The problem consists of much more than, “A woman can do the job just as well as a man.” The issue consists of what it is doing to society and the home. Who is rearing the children when mom is being a soldier? Who is training the children when mom is the CEO of a business? Of course women are smart; of course, women can run a bulldozer, organize, or plan and implement, but can a man be to the home and little children what a woman can be? That is one of the issues. Can a babysitter exude the love and security that the mother can? I say, “Absolutely not!” That babysitter does the job for the money; mom does the job in love. No, dad would not be able to be all that a little child needed — Moms are unique. While mom is out “playing the man” she is failing at rearing up her boys and girls; here is where the weakening of the gender begins.
Isaiah 3:12 “As for my people, children are their oppressors, and women rule over them. O my people, they which lead thee cause thee to err, and destroy the way of thy paths.”
To be what God designed a man to be, boys need some qualities that can only be learned from male leadership and from viewing female submission. Whether it be on the job or in the home, when the man leads and the woman follows, boys learn to be men; girls also learn to be the unique creation of God that only they can be.
When these roles are wrong, a submissive, soft, feminine spirit is bred into a young man, and a forward, masculine dominance is developed in a young lady. Manliness and an independent, self-sufficient, dare-to-try type manhood is under assault and is actually being dissolved right before our eyes. The idea of a young man stepping up to another person eyeball to eyeball and daring him to start something was common in my youth — that kind of action is nearly obsolete today.
With the loss of dare and risk, we have also lost the willingness to start churches or businesses, to overhaul an engine, or go out hunting in the woods. Those things that require a calm self-confidence and self-reliance are not only slipping away, but they are also completely under assault in our country.
Carefully pick out books that boldly exemplify manliness. Find books for your children to read that glorify women and men in their biblical roles. About junior high age, I started letting my boys read Louis L’ Amour books. I blacked out bad words and let them read. These books exalt manliness, honesty, treating women right, paying debts, love for freedom and country, and many more characteristics I wanted my boys to learn. I wanted my boys to hear good preaching, not teaching, but preaching by men who fearlessly said what was right and wrong.
My wife and I were very careful about which cartoons and movies our children saw. Hollywood will ruin your children if you give it a chance. No shows with unmanly men or women in leadership ought to be allowed in front of your children's eyes. Shows in which sexual innuendos are thrown around and women are viewed as sex objects ought to be trashed. Shows with women who save the day and men are being rescued ought to be tossed as well. Cartoons in which guys wiggle around like sissies or with female dancers ought to be banished from earth!
Summer activities that breed manliness ought to be encouraged: bows and arrows, BB guns, hikes, long bike rides, swimming, climbing, jumping, fun fighting, and an occasional bloody nose ought to be accepted and encouraged. Moms do not need to huddle over their children as they grow up, especially boys; let them be free and run risks now and then.
We do humanity no favor in training women to act like men and men to act like women. To attempt to erase gender differences is not only stupid, but it is dangerous for society. Our bookstore has lessons on child rearing that deal at length with developing men and women.
If you are homeschooling your children, you simply must get those boys away from mom and under male leadership. Time to face injustice, to deal with stupid people, and to allow manly character to rub off on them from good men is a necessity.
Be certain of this one thing: the devil is out to ruin anything God does. He wants men to be like women and women to be like men. He wants the home to be a shambles and politics to create lords over slaves. Use the summer to intentionally train your boys — especially in manly characteristics.
Pastor